A Tale: The Enigma of the Good Wife

There’s a girl, a young woman, sitting at the far corner of the grandiose dinning hall. Leaning on the wall, at the very end of the room.
Sandi, that is her name.
She is slender, dark, with big white eyes. She is not starring at a cellphone, or a computer screen. She’s not reading a book or eating or even fidgeting with anything. She is, literally, just sitting there. Continue reading “A Tale: The Enigma of the Good Wife”

I Missed All the Signs

“I was at a wedding yesterday and it left me feeling a bit sad.” She told me. In her voice I could hear the strain of a person forcing back tears. Her cheeks had started to turn rosy. Her eyes were water. She did not shed a tear.
I was caught by surprise.
That was not how her sentence was supposed to end. Continue reading “I Missed All the Signs”

Burgers at Breakfast — Memoirs of a Kenyan

I cannot count the number of times I’ve been super hungry at 8am or at 9 and wanted to eat more than a slice of bread and tea. I’ve wanted to eat actual food (and tea, of course). Like a plate of rice and stew or a burger. Something of that kind. ‘No, it’s too early…

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Boots! Boots! Boots!


I just have one question for the guys. How is it that none of you is walking around barefoot? You all seem to wear shoes. And very good looking shoes at that. How? Last night I spent hours on end going through web pages after pages hunting down good winter boots for men! Do you actually but shoes in the price of the hundreds? How can you afford that? So you buy a pair of boots that costs you say $200 ok? Tell me, please tell what then do you eat for the next two week? Why are men’s shoes so expensive?

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Marry Me, Trevor Noah!

Trevor, will you marry me?
Trevor, will you marry me?

No, it’s not the fame. It’s not even the good looks, although that’s a plus. With Trevor Noah, it’s the humor. Every woman wants a man who can make her laugh. Am I right or am I right! I’m on the floor laughing hysterically and please do not help me up. Let Trevor Noah come do it. This man, mmh mmh mh!
But let’s forget my humongous crush on this man, what do you think of Trevor Noah? His comedy I mean? Particularly on The Daily Show.  

I absolutely love him on the show, but then I am biased. I’ve listened and watched Trevor Noah’s comedy for years, long before he became Jon Stewart’s co-host on The Daily Show. For as long as I’ve known of him, I’ve had a soft spot for the guy (Trevor please find me so I won’t have to use that <of> part and instead just say, ‘for as long as I’ve known him’). If you haven’t watched him yet, after telling me which hole you’ve been living in these past few months, take some time to watch him on The Daily Show tonight.
And Jon Stewart, I just wanted to say thank you so much for bringing Trevor Noah into my home via the Daily Show! I sleep well at night now.
Now I only have one question for you Trevor, will you marry me?

Do Your Shoes Need a Face-Lift?

Shoe Jewels
They were cute and sparkly

The other day I was walking through The Hudson Bay on my way to an evening class. I had a few minutes to spare so I decided to window shop. The boots they’ve got are lovely and so are the pumps. And the bags and OMG the scarves and the fragrances. I was spoilt for choice, except for one thing, MONEY! There was a time when I shopped on alternate weeks. I almost always wore new clothes. Those wonderful happy days, sigh! And then bills started to happen. But I’m not complaining, no..no these are the facts. Anyway, I continued to lustfully ogle at The Bay’s beautiful merchandise. The crisp smell of newness blended with the orgasmic scent of brand new leather. Everything around me was shiny. I could almost hear them calling my name. I have self-control like madness. I love to shop but I hate debt even more. So I clasped my purse a little tighter-you know, just in case the credit card decided to slip out of the wallet and make its way to the cashier. I took a deep breath and started for the exit.
Just before I made it to the door, I spotted something that hadn’t been there before (yes, I too think it’s disturbing that I know the Hudson Bay that well). They were cute and sparkly and tiny, all stuffed into a basket, right by the wall, very near to the exit but closer to the cashier. I paused. I just wanted to know what they were. No harm in that right?
Sheoe Jewels 2
I discovered shoe jewelry

I walked towards the basket half afraid that I would cave and buy something I wouldn’t even have a use for. “You’re bigger than that, I said to myself” before taking another step then reaching for the shiny thing. I still could not tell what it was, some kind of jewelry that’s for sure. So I flipped it over to the back side and “oh shoe jewelry” it said. “Ummh…..Ohkayy…..mmh!” And with that I left the store. A round of applause please, my credit card stayed put. It did not make a run for the cashier. Can I hear an AMEN!
It’s been almost two weeks since I discovered shoe jewelry. For how long have these been a thing? Why am I just seeing them now? I like the malls, new things and stylish accessories. Why did I not know about shoe jewelry? I walk through the bay at least once every week. And each day that I do, I especially go to the shoe area. That basket has not been there. Do people actually buy them? I wasn’t particularly sold on them because when I go shoe shopping I go to town! So my shoes generally do not need a boost, they’re always on point. But still, shoe jewels are a genius idea. I marveled at this new revelation for a week when I finally decided to find out how popular they are. And what do you know? There are actual entrepreneurs who are making a living solely on selling shoe jewelry. I know, I thought it was impossible too. I mean, who buys these? They’re super cute, I’ll give them that. And yes, some shoes I’ve seen desperately need a face-lift.
I mean, who buys these?
I mean, who buys these?

I suppose you could keep a pair in your bag just in case your co-workers decide to go for drinks right after work. Or maybe you have a fabulous date with no time to rush home and get dolled up. I can see how these could come in handy. I like the idea, for others I mean, not for self. Shoe jewels are a good emergency plan. Get yourself a pair, or I just might hand one out to you on the streets on Christmas eve!
Have you heard or seen shoe jewelry? Do you own a pair? When did they come in handy for you? 

I want You Now

I don’t want you when you’ve figured it all out. I want you now. I want you when you’re naïve and young and lost. I want to be beside you while you struggle to stand on your feet. When you’re still stumbling and losing your way.
I don’t want you when you’ve mastered the basics and established your path. I want to hold your hand when you can’t seem to figure things out. I want to Continue reading “I want You Now”

My Monday Morning Transit

My Monday Morning Transit

On the morning transit

It is approaching 8AM and I’m heading off to work. I am tired and sleepy and most definitely cranky. I am not a morning person in any sense of the word. I’m at the bus stop waiting on the ’43’, my morning transit bus. According to the Winnipeg Transit app, the bus should be here any minute.

It is also cold which is not helping me at all.

This particular bus driver is great but extremely perky. It makes me mad just how cheery he is. Not mad at him, at me. Why can’t I be like that?

In the mornings, I would much rather not talk. But since I hate it when I energetically approach people and they give me nothing, I put my best effort for this bus driver. He’s warm, always in a jolly mood. I wish Continue reading “My Monday Morning Transit”

Do Not Give Them Your Control

On TV, we tend to see how personal drama often leaks into professional lives. It is a recurring scene in movies and series to mention just a few. Perhaps it is something that cannot always be controlled, but it definitely needs to be avoided as much as possible.

We are certainly human and at times things beyond our control happen. http://www.csc.com/careersau/ds/12115-flexibility_for_balancing_your_work_and_life
We are certainly human and at times things beyond our control happen. Retrieved from http://www.csc.com/careersau/ds/12115-flexibility_for_balancing_your_work_and_life

We are human and at times things beyond our control happen.
Mankind is not robotic.
We react to words and actions, and when the going gets tough, we give in. And that is OK. However, let us try to keep it at a minimum. If it is a personal phone call that could upset you, call them back later when you are in a more secluded area. When someone offends you, try to notify them without causing a scene but if you cannot help it at that instant, walk away to catch your  breath. We tend to handle issues a lot better when we are composed. A certain wellness coach once explained at a mentorship seminar that in getting worked up we lose our control to the other party. Do not give them your control, own it!
Since we spend most of our days at work, our colleagues tend to also be our friends. It is however vital not to unload work frustrations on workmates. Find a close friend or family member outside of the workplace to rant to every once in a while. You will feel better plus you get to keep your reputation intact and stay out of office drama. This would also saves you from lots of stress and uneasiness. Furthermore, it helps create a workplace free of gossip and other behaviours that could result in unhealthy workplace environments.
On a stressful day, take a brief walk. It could be to your water fountain and back to your desk. At your lunch go to the gym, maybe get a manicure or anything that could help you destress. Some people have reported that taking several deep breaths (3-4) calms them.

 Find what keeps you calm. Keep the drama out of the office and always maintain your control.

Do you think that it is important to separate personal from professional life? Why or why not? What have been your experiences at your place of work?
© Valerie Chela N, all writers herein and Memoirs of a Kenyan, 2013. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s authors and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to appropriate author of content and Memoirs of a Kenyan with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Why are we like using the word ‘like’ like all the time or whatever?

Whatever happened to simply thinking quietly or developing a thought completely before attempting to speak? Or sticking to the conventional non-word fillers such as “um”?goodgriefI won’t deny it. I too struggle to keep certain words that add no meaning whatsoever out of my speech. “Like” is one good example. Occasionally, and against my better judgement, this word crops up in my vocabulary. I make a conscious attempt to avoid using it and a few other words that I could still communicate greatly without.
There are several words that tend to be used an awful lot when we barely need them in the first place to communicate. Continue reading “Why are we like using the word ‘like’ like all the time or whatever?”

Just For Foodies- JFF (Guest Post)

Hello Foodies!!

Okay tomorrow is a new day, a new day to explore and discover more food and drinks. Just for foodies is going to be part of this new discoveries, JFF is going to be a continuing segment on MOFAK starting today. My idea for JFF is to post pictures of foods and drinks that I experience for the first time or that i have experienced before and would like to share with my fellow foodies. Okay, so here’s the fun part 🙂 you guys get to participate as well. You guys get to send us pictures of food or drinks that you experience in your everyday lives or during a trip or whatever the case might be. Continue reading “Just For Foodies- JFF (Guest Post)”

Feel Good Wednesday: "In Pursuit of Happiness"

When you help other people, you help yourself ...
(Photo credit: deeplifequotes)

Helping others has a magical way of causing us to feel good about ourselves. A study carried out by Michael F Steger an assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Colorado State University indicated that virtue-building activities such as volunteering that the individuals’ under study were engaged in caused more happiness than hedonic behaviour.  Aristotle is also reported to have argued some 2400 years ago, that people are happier when they spend sometime in their day carrying out virtue-building activities. Continue reading “Feel Good Wednesday: "In Pursuit of Happiness"”

Feel Good Wednesday: How About Gym Day?

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How about a gym day? (Photo credit: Tulane Public Relations)

Happy Feel Good Wednesday!
If you are anything like me, gyming is not among your favorite pass time activities.
Getting to the gym is usually the most challenging part of the whole affair for me. But ones I get there I am usually on the roll! And I mean it.
At one point I would have mocked anyone who suggested gyming for whatever reason. And no, I did not put on weight. Well, let’s just say not too much weight. But that is besides the point.

Gyming can be fun and a stress reliever. Imagine leaving the gym feeling great both mentally and physically.

Working out does not only improve health but also clears the mind causing one to think much clearer. Check out a few of the perks of working out.

  • Improves moods
  • Helps to control weight
  • Boosts energy
  • Helps to sleep better
  • Strengthens the immune system
  • It’s fun!

Now, how about a work out session tonight?
Tell us how it goes.
© Valerie Chela N, all writers herein and Memoirs of a Kenyan, 2013. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s authors and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to appropriate author of content and Memoirs of a Kenyan with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Feel Good Wednesday-Feel This Moment

Drop everything for just about three minutes and take a deep breath.
Now you can get back to it.
Amidst constant challenges and a fast paced environment even a three minutes break could make a tremendous difference.
Enjoy this song by Pitbull when you get a moment.

Feel This Moment
Feel This Moment (Photo credit: firashafira)

Feel This Moment by Pitbull Ft Christina Aguilera
Keep breathing and stay in control.
Happy Wednesday Folks!

Feel Good Wednesday

Mary J. Blige - Give Me You (CD 2)
Mary J. Blige – Give Me You (CD 2) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This is to introduce Feel Good Wednesdays for a full Month commencing today up to the end of July. Keep in mind, you are always welcome to comment and share with us, we love to hear from you.
Being smack in the middle of the week, Wednesday is often a day when we are in the zone. We’ve made it past the Monday blues, worked ourselves into a somewhat productive Tuesday and finally, it’s Wednesday.
 Sigh!
Everything seems to be gradually coming together.
At the same time there is a lot of pressure to deliver as the week hastily comes to its close. While we up the gear and produce results, it is vital that we learn to feel good in the process. Enjoy every moment.  
This Wednesday while you ride on the morning transit, walk to your destination, drive or even simply wake up to a day at home, take a moment to listen to a few of these feel good tunes. Tell us which one is your favourite or suggest a tune to us.

  • Karma Chameleon – Culture Club
  • Live it up – Jennifer Lopez
  • Family Affair – Mary J Blige
  • Just Dance – Lady Gaga

And remember, enjoy every passing moment this Wednesday.
Until next week, so long!

And Now For a Funny Mugs Moment

I happen to be a huge fun of funny mugs. Therefore, for you funny-mug-lover-mates of mine, here are a few to keep you feeling happy-go-lucky, all Thursday long!
1. Both 1 & 2 spotted at CafepressCoffee Mug - I'm an Engineer       Bored to Death Small Mugs
2. I wouldn’t say I’m courageous enough to own this one, but it is still pretty funny.
3. ..allegedly 🙂
   Spotted on e-bay.
4. And finally for the clueless colleague…
  From here.
I know  it has been a rough week   http://curezone.com/upload/Video/Rough_Week.bmp
..but stay strong, we are almost there! Have a thrilling Thursday, pals!

Meet the Founder

Val Chela1. Name and Title

Valerie Chela N. Founder of Memoirs of a Kenyan.

2. Something random about yourself

I am generally not a fan of pets but dogs terrify me. My idea of a pet would be any animal that can be caged safely away from me. I could probably live with a pet fish, I think.