Don’t Feel, Calculate and Other Sunday Thoughts

womenThe other day I was talking to one of my closest friends, I call him my voice of reason. I was ranting, actually. I was not happy about how some things turned out. I was also afraid of what was going to happen. I told him that I had a potential solution to the problem. When he asked me why I thought my solution would help I said that I kept feeling like my current situation was contributing to the issue. He then said three very simple words to me.

‘Stop feeling. Calculate.’

I had to laugh. I mean, I knew that already. That you can’t make good decisions based off of feelings only. You have to rationalize, analyze, calculate and come to a logical conclusion. But in the midst of my worries and fears I forgot that. I need to remember to not get caught up in fears. Fears are normal but they are not everything.

I caught a cold, again! Now I have this cough that is driving me absolutely crazy. I mean it hurts when I cough. I can’t really tell if it’s a dry cough or not. I’m not even sure what that means. It’s like I have rockets in my chest that are trying to take off but for some reason they can’t. I am so tired of trying to let them out. There are times that I have coughed until tears roll down my face. I wish I could stick my hand into my chest and just yank out whatever is clogging up things.

In light of this crippling and exhausting cough, I spent most of my Sunday lying on the couch. In the morning I read The Wait by DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good. In the afternoon I watched Dear White People. Somewhere between that I went to the Forks Market to meet up with an old friend for about an hour. That sun was just gorgeous. I just have to say it, goodbye Winter. I had almost forgotten what 22 degrees feels like.

womenMy brother needed a ride home around 6 pm so I grabbed my phone, wallet and sun glasses, wore some sandals and turned the knob on the inside to lock the door behind me. The moment that door shut I realized I didn’t have the car keys with me, or the house keys because those are attached to my car keys. I’d locked myself out. Wonder how I planned to drive without keys. Sigh! My life. I spent the next hour basking in the sun and browsing on social media. That is when I came across a Facebook page that spoke to my heart.

The page is called  Mommas Page. She totally speaks my language. Us women have got to have each others backs. A woman can be another woman’s worst nightmare. And we have a tendency to very quickly put each other down.I’ve always been an advocate for women supporting women so she completely blew me away. I shared a video of hers on my Facebook page.

As you can probably tell by now this is a random piece about my Sunday and my life with a cold. The upside though is my voice at the moment is amazing. It’s deep and husky so I’m loving that. (Who else thought of McDonalds just now? I knew you would.)

Even though this is a lame-ish post there are still two takeaways here:

  1. Don’t feel. Calculate.
  2. Women, be more supportive of each other. Let’s show more love and encouragement.

Happy Monday. Oh and for those doctor-types out there, how do you treat rocket coughs? I’m just so tired of it already.

Author: Valerie

I am a storyteller, a writer. I post new articles every other Tuesday. Life is full of wonder. Life is beautiful. I love the uncertainty that comes with it. The ups and downs of living -its high points and low moments, the good times and the bad. I love it all. But what I love even more, is writing about it! I enjoy mentoring girls and young women. Nothing gives me more pleasure than seeing women rocking in whatever they pursue. My writing however, is in most cases unisex. There is a little something for everyone on all matters lifestyle. My most passionate topic areas include fulfilling my life goals (fighting procrastination), my relationship with money,  and self love (because no one else will know how you expect to be treated if you don't treat yourself right). And then there's travel, food, fashion and books. I have a Bachelor of Business Administration Degree (BBA). I also possess extensive experience  and education in communication studies. Welcome to my world. Comment, share and have some fun while you're at it. Are you looking for a creative writer? Or would you like to collaborate? Drop me an email at:

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