The Culture of Shaming

Shaming is slowly becoming a culture of its own. It addresses issues that are not acceptable in our society by creating a sense of guilt and dishonour to individuals who are considered narrow-minded or ignorant.
Here’s a recent example:
Following Miss America Nina Davuluri’s victory many tweeters where shamed by their peers and the general public because of their racist tweets in regards to Nina’s Indian heritage. Many of those who were shamed ended up blocking their user accounts or privatizing them to avoid these attacks.
What is your take on the act of shaming?

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Feel Good Wednesday: Laugh A Little

Laughter… (Photo credit: leodelrosa…)

Whenever we feel rundown, stressed or simply exhausted, laughter can be quite uplifting. At work I find that even when I am having a particularly challenging day, laughing with my colleagues always makes things easier to deal with.
We’ve repeatedly heard varying quotes and sayings stressing the importance of laughter.

  • Laughter is the best medicine.
  • Charles Dickens a renowned author once wrote, ‘There is nothing in the world so irresistibly contagious as laughter and good humor.’
  • Hugh Sidey an American journalist who worked for Life magazine stated, ‘A sense of needed armour.’
  • Andrew Carnegie an extremely successful Scottish-American Steel industry entrepreneur and philanthropist in the 19th Century went as far as to say, ‘There is little success where there is little laughter.’

Evidently, laughter has the ability to cheer, comfort and bring people together.
To the best of my knowledge no solid research has confirmed that laughter presents potential health benefits. But if you ask me, being in a good mood and getting along with family, friends and colleagues due to a great sense of humor pose a fairly healthy environment.
Laughter enables us to have a positive attitude. This then gears us to approach scenarios positively. Also, it is common knowledge that smiling is infectious. When a complete stranger smiles while we walk by, it boosts our spirits and we go on to boost another’s spirit, and on and on.
Therefore, there is no harm in smiling and laughing.
How about we pass the smiling virus on today.
Smile a little, laugh a little!
Happy Feel Good Wednesday everybody! Laugh
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The Danger of a Single Story: Chimamanda Adichie

English: Chimamanda Adichie, Lagos 2009
English: Chimamanda Adichie, Lagos 2009 (Photo credit)

In Rediscovering Africa, my intention is to allow my readers to view Africa in a positive light. That despite all its shortcomings-which are present in other continents- Africa also has a lot to offer. I need the world to understand that Africa is not a continent always calling for ‘enormous pity’ as Chimamanda Adichie explains in her talk. Within those hardships and life’s challenges there are tonnes of hard-working people with big dreams, and high achievers changing lives everyday. Chimamanda Adichie goes on to share an encounter with her University roommate in the United States who wanting to sample her music was astonished when she produced contemporary Western music.
There is a great extent of normalcy in Africa which many seem to be surprised by. Not every region is characterized by starvation and homelessness. Many Africans understand and use technology, they live in massive bungalows and mansions, drive posh cars and take their children to good schools.
This is not to say that the negative issues should be ignored, but that there are many sides to every story. As you will hear in the video, talking about only one issue affecting a community creates the dangers of a single story. I want you, as a Memoirs of a Kenyan reader to have a deeper understanding of Africa so that you, unlike most people can have a ‘balance of stories’ as Chinua Achebe, another Nigerian writer describes it.
Continue reading “The Danger of a Single Story: Chimamanda Adichie”

Feel Good Wednesday

Mary J. Blige - Give Me You (CD 2)
Mary J. Blige – Give Me You (CD 2) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This is to introduce Feel Good Wednesdays for a full Month commencing today up to the end of July. Keep in mind, you are always welcome to comment and share with us, we love to hear from you.
Being smack in the middle of the week, Wednesday is often a day when we are in the zone. We’ve made it past the Monday blues, worked ourselves into a somewhat productive Tuesday and finally, it’s Wednesday.
Everything seems to be gradually coming together.
At the same time there is a lot of pressure to deliver as the week hastily comes to its close. While we up the gear and produce results, it is vital that we learn to feel good in the process. Enjoy every moment.  
This Wednesday while you ride on the morning transit, walk to your destination, drive or even simply wake up to a day at home, take a moment to listen to a few of these feel good tunes. Tell us which one is your favourite or suggest a tune to us.

  • Karma Chameleon – Culture Club
  • Live it up – Jennifer Lopez
  • Family Affair – Mary J Blige
  • Just Dance – Lady Gaga

And remember, enjoy every passing moment this Wednesday.
Until next week, so long!

Listen to the Sounds of Success Around You

Now Listen (The Chocolate Rockets album)
I am not saying follow them around and ask questions in the dozens, no! (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A friend of mine once told me that if you find that you have finally made it to the highest possible level in your organisation, if you find that there is no more room for growth or expansion, it means it is about time for change. Growth is a vital part of life. Making a better life for oneself is pretty much what most of us thrive for each day. Being in an environment where one is able to grow obviously creates a desire to self improve.
Assuming that we are all in suitable positions to reach out for higher paying jobs and eventually self actualisation, allow me to mention one issue that we need to be permanently conscious of as we make our way up the corporate ladder. The people around us! Continue reading “Listen to the Sounds of Success Around You”

Timeless or Lesstime? (Guest Post)

In Search Of Lost Time
Chance is given to the opportunist…who seizes the moment (Photo credit: bogenfreund)

We live as if we have all day and every day.
But all we have is now, not someday.
If we forever miss the now, then what will be done?
If we miss our chance, then we have less than won.
Opportunity comes, opportunity goes.
What will we make of it? What seeds will be sown?
We live as if our days we can borrow.
Let me tell you something. We never have tomorrow.
For when tomorrow comes, it will be today.
So act now and not some other date.
What is that one thing you’ve always wanted to give a shot?
Would you move towards the goal in the time that you’ve got?
Maybe eighty years is a long breadth of time—
But already eight seconds passed while reading this rhyme.
You have the Now—move forward while you still have the chance.
Chance is not a roll of the die; not some probability stat.
Chance is given to the opportunist . . . who seizes the Moment for what it is.
Focus. Don’t let anything, anyone hold you back from your Dreams.
You have Today. You have Now.
Dear Opportunist, Now is the Time to take the die out of the equation and—Step Out.

Another Monday It Is

English: Monday Morning :: duo pop & Folk Fran...
I wish you a fabulous Monday and a happy new week! (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I have this sense of a new beginning when I wake up every Monday morning. Is it just me or is it a common feeling? A sweet mixture of excitement and anxiety I feel. I wake up at the crack of dawn toss and turn in bed until I finally decide it is about time to rise and shine. Today, I woke up exceptionally early. I can not really determine whether it was the excitement of a fresh start or the anxiety from so much to do and so little time. Either way, as I write to you this morning, I cannot help but feel that familiar built up of pressure somewhere deep within me. At this very moment, I start another week. Starting today, I get the chance to redo all that I may have done incorrectly last week. Make better choices, save more time and accomplish a lot more. Before I walk out my door today, I wish you a fabulous Monday and a happy new week. I hope you feel like I do this morning, only a little less anxious and a lot more excited. I wish you all a productive happy week.

Black History Month: February

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Black History month is observed in February in both the United States and Canada. It is an annual celebration to commemorate important historic people and events among the African American Community. Those who led to obtaining freedom for its people.
At memoirsofakenyan we take the initiative to celebrate the great efforts by these selfless people. All through the month we invite you to join us as we keep these wonderful men and women close at heart. People such as martin Luther King and Carter G. Woodson among others.We will post brief facts on fascinating issues and places that have made history.
We take this moment to celebrate all people across the world. All men and women alike. We believe that everyone makes a difference. No matter how insignificant you may find your contribution, someone somewhere is smiling because you woke up this morning. By doing the best you can to make your life better, you unknowingly improve another. As it is consistently taught in economics, our own selfish deeds contribute to the economy of the nation, the invisible hand! Adam Smith has got to be smiling down at me right about now.
Today, we celebrate the world; the efforts made to improve a life, the prayers whispered before bed time, smiles shared after the crack of dawn. Everything that you do, you are making a difference. So keep working hard, continue to do your best and never stop believing that another life is improved because you have given the best of you!
Happy February fellas, happy Friday and stay tuned for our weekly Black History Month Facts.

My Workplace Hypothesis

20130111-094534.jpg I am not about to acclaim myself the corporate ‘guru’ of outstanding workplace countenance, but I firmly believe I have in the recent past, gained significant experience to base my profound workplace disposition hypothesis on. To ensure complete clarity, I will first point out that I am merely an amateur, learning by experience. In Latin they call it discere faciendo. I do not possess any formal training in corporate savoir-faire. I have been working at the same organization for three months shy two years now. As a result, I have gained immeasurable knowledge of work place do’s and don’ts which I gladly share with you today. Again, I do not in any way proclaim myself omniscient to work place matters. It is in fact quite the opposite. In sharing the much that I have learnt over the years; I hope to trigger a reaction from you. That you may agree or disagree with my point of view or add onto my growing list of exceptional work place practices. In the end (assuming there will be an end although I would rather this list grows to infinity), together we should have developed a much more thorough list of norms acceptable in office settings.
· Treat EVERY client like they were your FIRST of the day
· Care about the IMAGE you create
· Always DRESS for the job you want
· Do NOT CRACK under pressure
· Care about the QUALITY of work
· Have a sense of LOVE for the job
· Always EXCEED expectation
· Do NOT CRAP where you eat
It is a brilliant idea to separate your professional and social life. Yes, you got that right, I mean romantic relationships in particular. I know it has been said before, but I cannot stress this enough. After all, prevention is better than cure, right?
· Never pick a FIGHT you cannot win
I am talking about your clientele. No matter how annoying they may be, you will never win a fight against them. Do not get engaged, disengage! Let them vent, allow them a chance to let off steam and perhaps later explain yourself calmly. At the very worst refer them to someone else. Whatever your choice of action, refuse to get caught up in a fight.
~ Val