Do Not Give Them Your Control

On TV, we tend to see how personal drama often leaks into professional lives. It is a recurring scene in movies and series to mention just a few. Perhaps it is something that cannot always be controlled, but it definitely needs to be avoided as much as possible.

We are certainly human and at times things beyond our control happen. http://www.csc.com/careersau/ds/12115-flexibility_for_balancing_your_work_and_life
We are certainly human and at times things beyond our control happen. Retrieved from http://www.csc.com/careersau/ds/12115-flexibility_for_balancing_your_work_and_life

We are human and at times things beyond our control happen.
Mankind is not robotic.
We react to words and actions, and when the going gets tough, we give in. And that is OK. However, let us try to keep it at a minimum. If it is a personal phone call that could upset you, call them back later when you are in a more secluded area. When someone offends you, try to notify them without causing a scene but if you cannot help it at that instant, walk away to catch your  breath. We tend to handle issues a lot better when we are composed. A certain wellness coach once explained at a mentorship seminar that in getting worked up we lose our control to the other party. Do not give them your control, own it!
Since we spend most of our days at work, our colleagues tend to also be our friends. It is however vital not to unload work frustrations on workmates. Find a close friend or family member outside of the workplace to rant to every once in a while. You will feel better plus you get to keep your reputation intact and stay out of office drama. This would also saves you from lots of stress and uneasiness. Furthermore, it helps create a workplace free of gossip and other behaviours that could result in unhealthy workplace environments.
On a stressful day, take a brief walk. It could be to your water fountain and back to your desk. At your lunch go to the gym, maybe get a manicure or anything that could help you destress. Some people have reported that taking several deep breaths (3-4) calms them.

 Find what keeps you calm. Keep the drama out of the office and always maintain your control.

Do you think that it is important to separate personal from professional life? Why or why not? What have been your experiences at your place of work?
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Professionalism While Life Happens

True! Mankind is not RoboticOn TV, we tend to see how personal drama often leaks into professional lives. It is a recurring scene in movies and series. Perhaps it is something that cannot always be controlled, but it definitely needs to be avoided as much as possible.

Mankind is not robotic.
We certainly are human and at times things beyond our control happen.

True!

We react to words and actions, and when the going gets tough, we give in. And that is ok. However, let us try to keep it at a minimum.

  • If it is a personal phone call that could upset you, call them back later when you are in a more secluded area.
  • When someone offends you, try to notify them without causing a scene but if you cannot help it at that instant, walk away so that you can catch your  breath. We tend to handle issues a lot better when we are more composed.

A certain wellness coach once explained at a mentorship seminar that in getting worked up we are losing our control to the other party. Do not give them your control, own it!
Because we spend most of our days at work, some of our colleagues tend to also be our friends. It is however vital not to unload your work frustrations on your workmates. Find a close friend or family member to rant to every once in a while, you will certainly feel better plus you get to keep your reputation intact and stay out of office drama. This also saves you from lots of stress and uneasiness. Furthermore, it helps create a workplace free of gossip and other behaviors that would result in unhealthy workplace environments.
On a stressful day, take a brief walk even simply to your water fountain and back to your desk. At your lunch you could go to the gym or maybe get a manicure or anything that could help you destress. Some people have reported that taking several deep breaths (3-4) calms them.

 So I am calling on you today to find what keeps you calm. Keep the drama out of the office and always maintain your control.

Do you think that it is important to separate personal from professional life? Why or why not? What have been your experiences at your place of work?

© [Valerie Chela N, all writers herein] and Memoirs of a Kenyan, 2013. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s authors and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to appropriate author of content and Memoirs of a Kenyan with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

A Woman is Much More Than her Power to Seduce

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This article is a counterargument to an article written by SovietLover on The Reporter and The Girl blog. He talks about how women have the essential tools; smile, cleavage, high heels and humor that enable them to accomplish their goals. Check out SovietLover’s article for more details. Here’s my take.
True, a woman has all the necessary tools at her disposal to get ahead in life. These tools, to strongly point out, entail a lot more than sexuality and seduction. A woman is much more than her body and her power to seduce. Instilling this ideology in women is a step in the wrong direction. Continue reading “A Woman is Much More Than her Power to Seduce”

My Workplace Hypothesis

20130111-094534.jpg I am not about to acclaim myself the corporate ‘guru’ of outstanding workplace countenance, but I firmly believe I have in the recent past, gained significant experience to base my profound workplace disposition hypothesis on. To ensure complete clarity, I will first point out that I am merely an amateur, learning by experience. In Latin they call it discere faciendo. I do not possess any formal training in corporate savoir-faire. I have been working at the same organization for three months shy two years now. As a result, I have gained immeasurable knowledge of work place do’s and don’ts which I gladly share with you today. Again, I do not in any way proclaim myself omniscient to work place matters. It is in fact quite the opposite. In sharing the much that I have learnt over the years; I hope to trigger a reaction from you. That you may agree or disagree with my point of view or add onto my growing list of exceptional work place practices. In the end (assuming there will be an end although I would rather this list grows to infinity), together we should have developed a much more thorough list of norms acceptable in office settings.
· Treat EVERY client like they were your FIRST of the day
· Care about the IMAGE you create
· Always DRESS for the job you want
· Do NOT CRACK under pressure
· Care about the QUALITY of work
· Have a sense of LOVE for the job
· Always EXCEED expectation
· Do NOT be a PUSH OVER
· Do NOT CRAP where you eat
It is a brilliant idea to separate your professional and social life. Yes, you got that right, I mean romantic relationships in particular. I know it has been said before, but I cannot stress this enough. After all, prevention is better than cure, right?
· Never pick a FIGHT you cannot win
I am talking about your clientele. No matter how annoying they may be, you will never win a fight against them. Do not get engaged, disengage! Let them vent, allow them a chance to let off steam and perhaps later explain yourself calmly. At the very worst refer them to someone else. Whatever your choice of action, refuse to get caught up in a fight.
~ Val